This sounds very much like something we practise most every now and then but I’m afraid, many of us just have a vague idea of what it means and are satisfied to let it lie that way.
According to the English Dictionary, the word “confidence” means “Freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities.” The word is derived from its Latin form, cōnfīdentia (“believe, confide in”) and from a combination of con- (“with”) + fīdō (“trust”). Generally, when we hear the word, the first thing that comes to mind is being certain, bold and having faith towards the actualization of a set goal.
Ever wondered why you feel shaken every time you go through the feeds of people’s timeline on social media? Do you feel inadequate after hearing of other people’s exploit? That’s low self-esteem talking! Lack of confidence about your strength and abilities.
Today, it’s become a mundane thing for people to feel moved by the achievements of other people (especially on social media). Now, this may not necessarily be as a result of envy or jealousy but somehow, you just find yourself feeling out of place. Here are a few approaches you need to boost your self-esteem:
I. Reevaluate Your Steps: Find a quiet time and space to ponder on what steps you’ve taken. Carefully weigh the reasons you feel that way and if you find any lapses, don’t waste time to work on them.
II. Remember the High Points in Your Life: Recall the goals you have achieved in the past, how they where achieved and if possible, make a list of the ones you’re presently pursuing so as to go back to this record when you feel a need to. You’d be glad you did!
III. Recall Your Past: How you got over those seemingly “challenges” that made you question your worth, what level you were when you won that battle and where you are presently.
Now, while some of us may want to take these few point to the extreme and drive themselves too hard, I’d like to advice you that it isn’t necessary. Other people’s success shouldn’t drive you to start making such wishes as wanting to be like them or in most cases, better than them. Life isn’t a competition. Instead, it should drive you to be a better you!
The strongest but easiest approach to getting your confidence game on is to LOVE YOURSELF. That’s right! Feel good about yourself. Give yourself credit. You’ve been pretty amazing and you deserve the very best so why don’t you walk with your shoulders high and your best smile on your lips? You are amazing!