How competitive can life get?
It’s simple! When we root against others fulfillment just so we can feel better about ourselves. The ultimate feeling of superiority shouldn’t come by competing with others because there isn’t any reason to.
This can be taken as something natural, but it is quite counterproductive and not good for one’s growth. Why so? Keep reading.
I recall a beautiful Tuesday morning I had decided to go out to jog. I’d usually have company, but really, I decided to go solo that day. A few minutes into the jog, a certain man who was also out for a jog approached me at menacing pace.
Paranoia kicked in because these are perilous times but alas, he was just trying to catch up, sized me up and initiated a competition of sorts. It was probably the weirdest thing I’d experienced all week. Whatever his reason was for initiating the “jogging contest”, I’d never know but I do know that all I wanted was a morning jog and I damn well got it. I hope he got the star prize money and all the accolades for getting to “the end” first, whatever that meant.
I know competition is just part of life, but I also know when to compete and when to enjoy the nuances of life. Sometimes we forget that life is a gift, and forget to enjoy the little things.
So here’s a quick question “How often do you find yourself jealous about other people’s lives or even achievements?
Truly, the tendency to compete and compare oneself with others is inherent in every human right from birth, but why make a fuss about it? Or are you just feeling incredibly uncomfortable about yourself?
However competitive people are, I have realized these few days that much of the conflict I’ve had with people over time is because of how overly competitive I’d been with them and that competition can get even more intense because people over do things.
Let’s be honest with ourselves, sometimes this competitive egocentric attitude doesn’t come in a way we can take cognizance of, but we can always keep our lives in check cause negative competition isn’t healthy.
Although we live in a competitive society and as often as we train ourselves to be competitive whether we are aware of it or not there’s nothing wrong with wanting to “win” or be on the “frontline” but insecurity will always make us focus on winning against others and not the actuality of winning without competing.
When we’re willing to let go of the ideas and decisions we’ve fed ourselves with right from childhood about “competition ” then we’d learn to know what’s important, and what makes us “successful” or what gives us “value”. With that we can step into a more authentic and healthy version of competition that can truly empower and inspire us to lead more fulfilled lives that will help us grow to attain new heights and depths in our work, affiliation with others and our lives.
Competition is a part of living but not the essence of it, it is super important to strike a healthy way of running life’s race and through this decision, lead a happier life.
What’s underneath every competition we set out against others?
Is it a way of feeling superior or to make others feel inferior about themselves?